I am waiting on hold with Lia Sophia customer service about some missing items from an order in December (luckily mostly for me). I was getting a little annoyed and I was wondering if anyone else was having this problem so I searched, I hate lia sophia, on Google for fun. Guess who comes up as the second link for that on all of Google? This website. That’s going to be great for business.

I really do love doing it and I am having a lot of fun with it. I just hate being on hold!

EDIT- Okay, yeah. Thanks to this entry I am now #1. What a great accomplishment.

Yesterday was a very busy day for me. After work I went home and showered because if I am going to go play boss I think I should smell really good. Then I had a super quick dinner and I met my new girl, we’ll start calling her Elle.

Well I didn’t mention, but at her starter show she got one of her friends so excited about her new job that she signed someone on too! So I now have an adorable team of two. I am supposed to talk to another woman about joining today as well. I can’t believe how well things are going! I just need to get some parties in to fill up my calendar and I will be good to go. My goal is to get 5 Lia Sophia parties booked by January 31. If you live within a 50 mile radius of where I live or you are interested in doing a catalog party contact me. Ha-ha!

Anyway, so the meeting was a new consultants meeting so I went for moral support, but as always I came out of it with a lot of great info. We car pooled and on the ride home I had a nice talk with Elle where I came out to her. It went really well. She had mentioned a lesbian friend of hers so that’s why I choose to tell her. Also I don’t want to let her think I am hiding it from her, but I also don’t just want to announce it to everyone I meet. It’s important that I don’t loose business contacts and potential advisers just because of who I am in a relationship with. She took it really great and we actually had a very pleasant conversation on the ride home due to it.

After I dropped her off at her house I drove to Stroudsburg to go out with The Mrs. and one of our friends. We went to a sports bar called Front Row. They have $1 drafts and I had a glass of wine. Then I switched to Cosmos after I noticed they had martini glasses. I hate to tell you people this, but the Cosmo is my drink. It’s sad, but true. It’s actually not Sex and The City based. I just had one as my first official drink out and I loved it. I always wanted to drink martinis and one a cruise ship with my mom I got a classic gin martini and it was terrible. It tasted the way that bad perfume smells. People who like martinis are either real tough or real crazy and I prefer to think it’s the latter. So when I had a Cosmo I thought it was wonderful and its pink a cute so that’s my drink. Keep a note of that. Where was I? Oh. So the bartender seems really entertained by me after the wine and then the Cosmo, and he seems happy to be using his fancy drink making abilities. Then I look around the bar and notice that I am the only one not drinking beer. The only one! In the whole bar! I decided that this made me real classy. I drank another Cosmo and did I mention I had a Pinot Grigio earlier at the meeting? Well I did. I would not say that I was drunk, but I was defiantly feeling happy and chatty.

Most of my time at the bar was spent eating 5 very yummy and very cheap ($.20 each!) hot wings and hitting on out friend Kasey. (There is no way that I spelt that right.) Let me tell you something about me. If you take me out for drinks, get me a little toasty and hit on me even a little bit I am hitting right back. I also told her that The Mrs. and I swing. My poor wife, I love her so much. She puts up with a lot.

So we didn’t stay long. After that I left my car and The Mrs. drove me home and I went right to sleep. Something I haven’t done in a long time.

We are planning on going out with Kasey again tonight. That would be fantastic. I doubt drinks will be involved since drinking three days in a row would make me feel like an alcoholic not to mention it would be expensive.

You know what else I would like to mention? My Dad actually yelled at me today for not driving my car home last night and leaving it in Stroudsburg. Excuse me? He would rather I drove home drunk than leave my car somewhere else. It could get broken into, you know. Yeah. You know what else could happen? I could cause an accident, kill someone and get life in prison for murder. That isn’t that crazy of a statement either. They are so strict about that now. If you cause an accident and kill someone while under the influence you will get charged with murder. I saw that on Oprah. I get everything from Oprah.

I have the whole upcoming weekend off. Do you know what I am going to spend my time doing? I am going to tackle The Laundry because The Mrs. and I are losing our freaking minds and it has piled up again. I think this time when I wash some I am going to leave some clean clothing at my parents house. We don’t need all those clothes around. They just take up space and make me crazy. Perhaps I will photograph the situation so you can better understand the enormity of it all.

Also going on this week is practice for The Vagina Monologues for like the 4th year in a row I am performing in it with a little nothing part because I am still too much of a chickenshit to try out. Go Me! I’m still happy to be a part of it. I’ll be proud to tell my daughters someday.

Does the paperclip in Microsoft Word seem to patronize anyone else?

Yesterday I was in a really great mood. I felt better than I had in a while. Today I feel like crap. It’s interesting the way life fluctuates like that.

I had my meeting at the cosmetology school and I think it is safe to say that isn’t going to happen. Did you guys know how much cosmetology school costs? I sure didn’t. It’s about $16,000. No lie. That’s how much I would have to pay. Of course it does include everything E.G., my heads, blow dryers, books, classes. It’s just that I can’t see taking out that sort of loan and I’m not even sure I would be able to do it. The place is also in the ghetto. It’s dirty and there are trashy people aplenty. I was sneered at about 6 times. ‘Oh, I’m so sorry I am sitting here quietly like a normal human being with my legs crossed. Also, please don’t look at my bag. It’s fancy, I know. Leave me alone.’

Really. It was empty when I got there so I took a seat and set my purse down on the seat next to me. Then all of the sudden this family walked in with the noisiest, messiest little boy in the world. They all took a seat except the little boy who kept running around and hitting his mom. Then three more people came in and two of them sat down and there was one seat left and it was next to me with my purse on it. The one lady took a bunch of magazines and piled them on my purse. I looked up then and noticed that they needed a seat. So I put my purse in my lap and said “Oh! I’m sorry about that. Here, I’ll move this so you can sit down.” The woman then glared at me and stood by the other end of the chairs. Umm, okay. I hate people. During my interview the admissions rep said that the people who do best in the field love people and love making them feel good about them. So I would have to be a great people person. I think I can bull shit it, does that count?

So after her gave me the paperwork I told him I would let them know because I wanted to talk it over with my parents. I called The Mrs. to let her know how and went. When we got off of the phone I made a left out of the parking lot. I was retracing my steps and trying to get back to the highway. I start to notice that cars in the other lane are honking at me. I at an approaching street sign and it’s bright red featuring the words WRONG WAY. Whoops! Thank goodness it was a double lane. I pulled into the next driveway and luckily it went through to the other road which was not a one way and went to the highway. Good lord. I noticed it was a one way road too on my way in. I must have just forgotten.

Grey’s Anatomy was amazing last night and sad. I felt so bad for George. I’m glad they were able to have some humor in there too. I love the beginning when George is talking to Izzie about the money. Hilarious. I can’t wait until next week. The preview looks crazy! God, I love that show.

Tonight I have no plans and The Mrs. works late. I would love to do laundry, but I forgot to bring it with me and going back to get it is a real hassle because I have a history of getting trapped by my in-laws.

Tomorrow I have the second of my new girl’s starter shows. Hopefully it doesn’t take very long. I also hope it has good sales. I really want her to get the kit for free. It’s a great way to start off her business.

Sunday I am going to a winery with my aunt for some soup and wine event they are doing. It sounded neat and we love our wine.

Monday night my new girl and I and hopefully another girl who I am trying to get signed up will be attending another Lia Sophia meeting. I feel so busy lately, but it seems to be the good kind of busy.

I want this year to be the year I actively try to change things for the better. I hope I do.

My father is listening to some Benny Hinnish disciple while opening up knives he purchased from Collections, etc. It’s making me very uncomfortable. Why all the yelling? The people you are talking to are in church or have purchased your DVD meaning they already agree with you. Why must you yell? He also did some feminist stint about how women are more then bodies. Uhh…really? I can hear all of this clearly from my office and it’s really messing with the flow of my day.

That and I bought some Girl Scout cookies the other day and I made the mistake of opening one of the boxes. It’s not even sitting near me. I have to get up and walk to the other side of my office to get to them and when I do I only choose one cookie and I take it back to my seat and eat it. I must have done that four times already today. Though, it just occurred to me that it is 12:26 and I haven’t thought about lunch yet. (We usually order lunch at 11:30.) Perhaps it is not so much that the cookies (Thanks-A-Lot!*), but rather the fact that I am just hungry and they are there. This may have to be examined further.

*No really! That’s the name of the cookies. I also choose a box of Thin Mints for The Mrs. and a box of the delicious Carmel Delights. Those babies aren’t getting opened for a long time because I know I will eat them all.

I bought the above cookies from a den mother, or whatever, for a little girl I don’t know. Then I find out that one of my little cousins is selling them also so now I need to buy more cookies from her. Maybe I’ll just give her the money and tell her to keep the cookies.

Last night I had a Lia Sophia meeting that I brought my new girl to. It went awesome! We both left really pumped up about it and feeling good about the business. She signed up for the rally in February, which I think is great. One of the best things about having someone on my team is having people to talk to and sit with at the meetings. I want to get more people on my team so we can all go to the meetings together and share idea. It’s so much fun!

On Thursday I am going to a different type of meeting. I am going to meet with someone at Empire Beauty School to discuss classes and my interests in enrolling. We’ll have to see what type of adjustment it will be for me and also how much money it is going to cost. It will be something else huge on my plate to deal with, but they have night classes so it wouldn’t mess with my day job and the two party businesses I do can be bent around my schedule anyway so that won’t be a problem.
Oh! Back to Lia Sophia, did I mention I am trying to earn a trip to Hawaii this year? Well I am. My goal for the month is $3,000 in sales and 4 parties. That is an insane feat when the month is nearly half over and I only have one party scheduled. I am going to try for it as hard as I can. The worst that can happen is that I don’t make it.

(In other brief news she did respond and I put it in the comment section of my other post. She made me feel bad about writing anything in the first place…I’m sort of just leaving the situation alone.)

I ended up writing something back. I wanted to be less “Fuck you Bitch!” and more here is how I feel about the situation. I don’t know if that’s how I came out sounding or not.

Here is my reply.

“Amanda,

I am writing this to you because it’s been bugging me and I would just like to get this off of my chest and be done with the whole situation. Our friendship obviously didn’t mean anything at all to you or you would have contacted me in some way after receiving my phone calls or my last message.

First of all I feel it is pretty horrible to accuse my father of committing insurance fraud. He has been in business for 35 years and despite his political beliefs where he and I severely differ he is a good person. He even does charity work for Women’s Resources. He does all of their lock work for women who are experiencing abuse for free. He has even gone out in the middle of the night to do lock work free for them. He agreed to charge you and mark the same price he would have charged me to get my own car done. Then I explained the situation nicely to you, you didn’t even apologize. I don’t feel good about that. Saying things about me and my business is fine because it’s me. Accusing my father of illegal activity without even asking about it? That doesn’t sit well with me.

Secondly I’m just unnerved about the whole confrontation of the message that you sent. They way you were very matter-of-fact with you wording when you didn’t even ask me what was going on. Why on earth would I sabotage my brand new business on purpose? That would be crazy! I lost all of those contacts and customers through the lia sophia shipping problems and I had to start over again with it this month. I almost quit, but the company gave me very good reasons to stick with it.

I feel like I may have already said some of this in my first message. I guess it really doesn’t matter. I thought about calling, but really I just wanted to compose my thoughts on the matter, write it all up and be done with it.

I was really happy when we started to hang out so much and I liked that we related to each other well and we had the same views on a lot of things. I don’t have the easiest time trusting people though so it is a big deal to get me to open up and talk. I think you knew that too.

I don’t think I’ll mind if you choose not to respond to this message. I just needed to clear my head and get out some last thoughts so that I can put this whole thing behind me.

Angela

P.S. – Just so you know I deleted almost everyone off my friends list for various reasons, not just due to this. ”

So that’s that. I just really want this to be over with.

I promise I’ll update soon about something (anything) else.

Thanks for being so sweet everyone. I’m still a bit sick, but I am doing much better. I can sit up for more than five minutes, take a deep breathe and search the internet without feeling nauseous.

The Myspace drama I am experiencing may be the drama that wasn’t because unlike my high-school teenage self I tend to shy away from drama these days and I don’t really know what to say. Anyway I received this message in my myspace inbox from my friend Amanda. (Background info- Amanda and I have been friends for about 5 years now. We went to school together and we were in the same out of school club called S.T.O.P Abuse (Students Together for the Outreach and Prevention of Abuse). She has a little baby now and was engaged. We used to try to hang out weekly and we liked that we were both on the same page in terms of not liking to party or drink a lot. She had some work done on her fiancé’s car and her mom held a Lia Sophia party with me in November. I began to notice that she wasn’t returning my calls and myspace comments. Then she got married and didn’t invite me to the wedding. I also noticed that she took me off her Top 8. So I left a comment asking if she was mad at me and on Christmas Day I received this reply. )

“I got your voicemail. Sorry this has been the first chance I’ve had to respond. Thanks for your warm wishes.

I hope you have a very merry christmas!

About your comment, I’m not mad, I’m just unsettled about a lot of things. I don’t think now is an appropriate time to get into it all, but I’ve been avoiding it long enough I suppose.

First of all, I was really upset about how your dad’s business handled mark’s car. It took a rediculously long time for the parts to come in, and then they were in and no one called to say they were. You said it would take 3 hours but it took 3 days! And you didnt call to say it would talk longer. I think that is a normal business curtesy that should have been extended. But still what really got me was that you wanted to charge more just because the insurance company is paying for it. THAT’S INSURANCE FRAUD. Do you understand that? That’s illegal. At first I thought that you probably just didn’t understand what was going on because its your father’s business, but then all these problems kept occurring with lia sophia and I hate to say it Angela but your business skills were brutally lacking there. You said that the items that were on back order from my mom’s party were in and that you were mailing them, but those people STILL have not recieved their items. Many things were misordered and you’re the one who wrote out all those forms. And forget how ticked off Suzanne and Risa are… I tried to stay out of it, but you try to play it off like its out of your control and maybe the warehouse problems were, but many of the others things were not.

I hope that we can be friends once all of this is said and done. Your friendship is important to me. I’m not trying to hurt your feelings, but I can understand how my confronting you with all this might offend you and for that I’m sorry. I could have just kept this all in and pretended like it didn’t happen, but that’s not me.

-Amanda”

I guess it has been to long because my reply to her was no longer in my sent box. Boo. I wanted to show word for word what I wrote back. I guess I will bullet point what I wrote back, but I was really overly nice in my reply because I didn’t want to end a friendship over something so stupid.

• The first thing I wrote back about was the insurance fraud claim because that is a big damn deal. Hello! When she said she was bringing a car in I got her the best price possible. I mentioned that she was one of my closest friends, she had a new little baby and she was getting married soon. She was charged what I would have been charged. Parts only, nothing else. Then we found out the entire thing was going through the insurance company and we can’t charge them that price so it was then written up as if it had been a regular customer. I don’t think charging them our regular prices is illegal. We have the paperwork to back it up and they are our listed prices. I told her I could fax her a copy of the invoice if she would like. We also didn’t charge them anything because it was right before Christmas. Usually they would have to pay and then the insurance company would reimburse them, but instead we billed the insurance company directly.
• Then the whole blow about my business. I don’t know if I mentioned on here the shipping problems with Lia Sophia. Well shipments have been way delayed because they opened a new shipping facility. There is nothing I can do about it. I have been killing myself getting products to people by the holiday and giving every single customer who had a delayed shipment a $10 gift certificate from me. I gave her mom a $50 gift certificate from me. The party I did for her mom was my first party EVER and yes, I made a few mistakes, but I left them keep the item that they were wrongly given and ordered them a replacement product with my own money and delivered that to them ASAP. I have been doing my best to keep things going and it really bothered me for her say this to me.
• I apologized several times in my reply to her and also mentioned that I am confused as to why she wouldn’t just call me about it. I said that I didn’t want this to ruin our friendship and that I hopes she has a good holiday. (It was Christmas after all.)

Then came the drama that wasn’t. She never replied to this message. She never replied!! That started to annoy me and I have been so sick of getting 100+ page views with no comments or adds and I don’t like knowing that just anyone can read everything about me. So I wrote a message saying that I don’t feel comfortable with Myspace anymore and I am deleting everyone and those who want to keep in touch should add me again. Except I didn’t realize that once I deleted people they wouldn’t be able to read that message. So I deleted 136 people and left only my closest friends and I made my page private. I am worried I now look like I am passive agressively myspace fighting with 136 people.

So I still haven’t heard back and I keep wanting to write some sort of reply such as “I guess the friendship isn’t that important to you.” Because that was in the last paragraph of what she wrote, but really I think I should just let it go. The chances of us every being friends again is very slim. I have more friend issues than anyone else I know to the point where it must be me, but I don’t know what I do. I just don’t want to go through it again.

Still…Should I say something back? It kills me that the last things I say to her are so sweet because I don’t feel sweet about it anymore.

So you may have noticed the writing on here got very choppy after NaBloPoMo. It wasn’t that the challenge wore me out or that I didn’t have anything of interest to say. I couldn’t get myself to sit down and write. I felt lethargic and listless most of the time. I thought I was sinking back into depression, but when you got down to it I was happy. Yet something just didn’t feel right.

Remember me talking about how even though I just came off of a 3 year streak of not getting sick I kept getting all these sicknesses all of the sudden? It seemed like as soon as I warded off one (with all my crazy holistics) a new one arrived. Well, friends, it seems like I never got rid of the first sickness that began in late October. It just kept getting worse and morphing into new symptoms. This all came to a head on New Years Day. I went to my parent’s house and just felt horrible. I had developed this really mean cough and last Saturday I really noticed that I couldn’t breath right. My breaths felt shallow and I wasn’t able to breath in nice and deep. So on Monday, New Years Day is started to get really bad. I went to my Aunt’s house to have Pork & Sauerkraut for good luck (hooray for being German) and then I went home soon after and lay on the couch. I went home with The Mrs. and tried to go to sleep. We both agreed that I should make a Doctors appointment the next day.

On Tuesday I woke up and went to work feeling worse than ever. I called the doctor and got an appointment for 11:30 am that day. The Mrs. picked me up from work and took me there. I had to answer embarrassing health questions for my insurance and also let them know who the main person on my insurance card is. It’s hard to be discreet when telling the nurse it’s your partner in a room full of locals some who know your family very well.

Finally I was able to go back and I saw Jason the P.A. who was very nice. It turns out I am the first case of the Flu they have seen all season. (Do I get a gold star?) I also have a sinus infection. He said it’s very lucky I came in because it was starting to turn into pneumonia! Pneumonia! People die from pneumonia. He gave me three prescriptions including an inhaler to help me breath. The whole thing including the prescriptions only cost me $57.50 thanks to my new health insurance. It’s so amazing that I have health insurance because if I didn’t I would never have gone to the Doctor and who know what this could have progressed to.

So my and my hippy dippy self are taking actual prescribed medications. Since my body is so unused to meds I think they are kicking my ass more than they would a normal person. My one has Codeine in it which makes me so tired and they all make me feel a bit nauseous.

Wednesday was the worst day for me because I felt the sickest and it was also The Mrs. and my sixth anniversary. I haven’t even given her any gifts yet. She gave me a pink and red silk scarf from Coach with hearts on it and a black leather heart cell phone charm from Coach to hook on the zipper of my coat. I thought that was everything, but she came home from work with a little wooden basket that was white with hearts and it was filled with candy and it had an adorable heart shaped candle in it. I thought that was so sweet. She said she was going to be home late from work because she had to stop for gas, but it was apparently all so she could make me up a basket. It also had a very sweet card and I just started bawling when I read it and saw the little present. That really made me happy.

Thursday I felt a little better and spent the day recovering. Today I feel really good. I still have a terrible couch and my nose is really running, but that is because of the medicine breaking everything up. Hopefully I’ll be back to normal soon. I really feel like I am starting to get back to my old self. I can’t believe I was sick that long without going to a doctor.

Sickness aside I have also been experiencing some of the much talked about “Myspace drama” which I will be getting into later. I also have a new person joining my team today and I am thrilled!! Everything is set to go. I just need to enter her paperwork to make it official. I’ll be working on that today as well as sending out some invitations.